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 ¨...generations of children and grandchildren of Residential School Survivors, can have access to them so they will know what happened to their ancestors.
They will know why things are the way they are.

Reconciliation is going to be a long and difficult process. As I said, it took 150 years to get to this point,
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Marie Collins, la voix des victimes de la pédophilie au Vatican

29/4/14

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Elle-même abusée par un prêtre, en 1960, alors qu’elle avait treize ans, Marie Collins est l’une des huit experts choisis par le pape François pour travailler au sein de la nouvelle Commission pontificale pour la protection des mineurs.

Cette commission se réunit au Vatican pour la première fois jeudi 1^er mai.

Lorsqu’elle a appris qu’une Commission pontificale pour la protection de mineurs serait créée au Vatican, Marie Collins, qui fut l’une des premières en Irlande à dénoncer les abus sexuels commis par des prêtres, attendait comme un « test » de connaître les noms de ses membres. « J’espérais avant toute chose qu’elle inclue la voix des survivants. » Elle était pourtant loin d’imaginer qu’elle serait « appelée à incarner cette voix », raconte-t-elle, reconnaissant avoir éprouvé un « choc » à l’annonce de sa nomination parmi les huit experts de la nouvelle instance constituée par le pape François, le 21 mars.

Elle-même agressée sexuellement par un prêtre en 1960, devenue porte-parole des « survivants » de la pédophilie dans l’Église irlandaise, comme ils se dénomment eux-mêmes, cette Dublinoise de 67 ans affirmait avoir toujours gardé la foi, mais perdu « toute confiance » dans l’institution. Elle avait pourtant accepté, il y a deux ans, de participer au symposium international organisé au Vatican pour coordonner la lutte contre les abus sexuels dans l’Église, malgré les critiques de certaines victimes l’accusant de trahison.

Son témoignage avait alors bouleversé l’auditoire de cardinaux, évêques et religieux du monde entier. Marie Collins venait d’avoir 13 ans lorsque, hospitalisée pour une infection au bras à l’hôpital Notre-Dame, à Dublin, elle fut agressée sexuellement par l’aumônier, un prêtre de 26 ans, qui l’a aussi photographiée nue. Un calvaire qui devait durer trois semaines. « Ces visites du soir dans ma chambre ont changé ma vie. Tout en me molestant, il répétait qu’il “était un prêtre” et ne “pouvait pas agir mal” »,avait-elle confié.

« JE LUI AI PARDONNÉ »

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Marie Collins a tu son secret, rongée par la honte et la culpabilité, plongeant dans une dépression sévère. Son mariage et la naissance de son fils n’ont pas soulagé sa peine. Ce n’est qu’à l’âge de 40 ans qu’elle a osé s’ouvrir, pour la première fois, de cette agression. « J’ai pris rendez-vous avec un curé, qui a refusé de relever le nom de l’agresseur et m’a dit que c’était probablement de ma faute. Cette réponse m’a brisée. » Dix ans plus tard, alors que les scandales commençaient à être révélés par la presse, comprenant qu’elle n’était peut-être pas la seule victime, elle en a de nouveau parlé à son archevêque, qui a évoqué la « prescription » pour ne pas attenter à la « réputation » de l’aumônier. « Mon témoignage au Vatican m’a enfin permis d’exprimer combien ces abus et l’attitude, ensuite, de l’Église qui les a couverts m’avaient affectée. C’est l’histoire de nombreux survivants », dit-elle aujourd’hui.

Pendant près de trente ans, elle a tellement souffert psychologiquement qu’elle n’a pu mener de carrière professionnelle, ni même s’occuper de son fils comme elle l’aurait dû, en raison des séjours en hôpital psychiatrique. Sa renaissance, Marie Collins la situe au moment où son agresseur a comparu devant la justice. « Je l’ai rencontré une seule fois, à ce moment-là. Il m’a demandé pardon, je lui ai pardonné. Au nom de ma foi et parce que le pardon libère la victime tout autant que l’agresseur… »

UNE RELATION « TRÈS FRAGILE » À L’ÉGLISE

Apaisée, n’éprouvant, de son propre aveu, plus aucune colère, elle se bat à la tête de sa fondation et au sein de plusieurs associations pour la protection des enfants. Ces dernières années, les efforts déployés par la hiérarchie, en particulier Mgr Diarmuid Martin, archevêque de Dublin, ont peu à peu restauré sa confiance. « Sa contribution pour protéger les enfants dans le diocèse (NDLR : depuis 2003) a été cruciale, salue Mgr Martin. Ses conseils et ses commentaires critiques ont représenté une aide inestimable et m’ont inspiré personnellement. » Cependant, la relation de Marie Collins à l’institution ecclésiale est toujours « très fragile ». « J’ai quitté l’Église et suis revenue plus d’une fois au long de ces années. Le plus difficile était de bien distinguer dans mon esprit l’institution qui fermait les yeux et ma foi en Jésus-Christ pour garder l’espérance. »

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Marie Collins aborde cette nouvelle tâche « pleinement consciente de la responsabilité » qui l’attend : « C’est une occasion capitale pour faire connaître les préoccupations des survivants et nous assurer que l’Église catholique est une organisation sûre à laquelle les enfants peuvent participer sans peur d’être blessés », souligne-t-elle, se disant « déterminée » à « parler haut et fort ».« Je ressens une certaine frustration, l’Église est si lente. Les survivants ont entendu assez de demandes de pardon, ils veulent voir les choses changer… J’aimerais qu’ils ne soient plus considérés comme des adversaires devant les cours de justice. Il faudrait également que certaines Églises, en Afrique ou en Asie par exemple, qui pensent qu’elles ne sont pas touchées par ce problème, ouvrent les yeux et mettent en place des procédures. Si la commission n’apporte pas de changement réel, concret dans la manière dont l’Église protège les enfants, elle aura failli à sa mission. »

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Het bisdom Roermond is niet van plan het portret van de vorig jaar overleden oud-bisschop Jo Gijsen weg te halen. Het schilderij van Gijsen hangt in een privévertrek van het bisdomgebouw in Roermond, zoals zoveel portretten van vroegere bisschoppen van Roermond.

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 “It is time for the Christian Brothers to be made accountable for the rapes, floggings,cruelty, neglect,brutality, child slave labour, inhumane treatment and lack of education of boys in their ‘care’. ”

CLAN will be holding a fortnight of rallies for the two weeks of the Royal Commission
public hearings outside the building, to make the general public aware of the
criminaltreatment of these boys and the legacy of abuse on these men

The rallies will be held each morning Monday 28th April–Friday 9 th May 2014
Outside the WA Industrial Relations Commission, 111 St Georges Tce,Perth, WA
Time: 7:30am

  CLAN is a support, advocacy, research and training network for people who grew up in the 900+ australian orphanages children’s Homes, foster care and other institutions.

 

Former child migrant tells harrowing tale of abuse as royal commission heads to Western Australia

By Jade Macmillan

 

 

  Photo: A group of child migrants sent from Britain to Western Australia. (Supplied)

The Royal Commission into Institutional Responses to Child Sexual Abuse will begin two weeks of hearings in Western Australia today.

The focus will be on four institutions run by the Christian Brothers: the Bindoon Farm School, St Mary's Agricultural School, St Vincent's Orphanage Clontarf and Castledare Junior Orphanage.

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John Hennessey, who migrated to Australia as a child, is one of a number of men set to give evidence.
Mr Hennessey was 10 years old when he was taken from his orphanage in Bristol, England, in the mid-1940s and sent to Western Australia.
He says the commission will open old wounds.
"I remember one day - it was a Sunday - these three Christian Brothers came to the hall and the nuns told us the Brothers are looking for children to go to Australia," he said.
"They said 'You go to Australia - kangaroos will take you to school, there's fruit everywhere'.
We were only little kids and this was music to our ears."

 

'A living hell': hard labour, savage beatings and sexual abuse

Mr Hennessey was among a group of children shipped to Fremantle and then taken to Bindoon, about an hour north of Perth.

"I remember Brother Keaney, he was a big man dressed in his black habit. He said: 'Welcome. We're going to make men of you, we don't want you to be little girls'," he said.

Video: Child abuse Royal Commission to hear from child migrants in Perth (7pm TV News WA)

In those days, we were little kids, we didn't know what paedophilia was.

John Hennessey

"The place was half built. Now you look at it, I can't understand why nobody checked out where we were going."

The boys were forced to help construct the property's Spanish-style buildings with their bare hands.

But Mr Hennessey says hard labour was not the worst of it, with savage beatings and sexual abuse making Bindoon a living hell.

"In those days, we were little kids, we didn't know what paedophilia was," he said.

"You'd go to bed at night time fearing that someone was going to come to your bed and pick you up.

"We used to go to confessions and tell them all sorts of things. And we didn't know that the priest also was a paedophile."

Mr Hennessey was emotional as he recounted a particularly brutal beating he believes caused the stutter he has lived with ever since.

He said he was confronted by Brother Keaney in the dining hall after sneaking into his vineyard and stealing grapes.

"He lashed out with his walking stick, it had a metal bottom to it, and he belted me over the head and what have you," he said.

"Then he stripped me, put me over a chair and nearly flogged me to death.

"Abuse and bullying was just the norm."

'Extreme cases' of abuse to be put forward: commission

The royal commission will spend two weeks in Perth listening to the stories of victims from the four children's homes.

The commission's chief executive, Janette Dines, warned some of the evidence presented would be particularly severe.

"These stories are probably quite well-known to people in Western Australia because the Christian Brothers institutions have been the subject of a number of inquiries," she said.

"Certainly, from what we're aware, the stories of physical and sexual abuse are very confronting, and there will be some quite extreme cases of abuse put before the royal commission."

The Christian Brothers apologised to West Australian victims in the 1990s and reached an out-of-court settlement with some of them.

The stories of physical and sexual abuse are very confronting and there will be some quite extreme cases of abuse put before the royal commission.

Janette Dines, royal commission CEO

Ms Dines said the Perth hearings would look at that response, as well as the way the State Government handled complaints and compensation claims.

"This is the first time that the commission has really specifically gone into redress," she said.

"It can do so very effectively through this case study because there are so many different schemes featured.

The body set up by the Catholic Church to respond to the commission says it is expecting horrific stories of abuse and has called for full transparency.

"It's incumbent on the Christian Brothers to come forward again and explain themselves, to make sure the truth is revealed and demonstrate to the community the sincerity they hold for the victims," said Francis Sullivan, the chief executive of the Truth Justice and Healing Council.

"Whether it's the Christian Brothers or the State Government or any other element in how this was handled - how the legal, civil actions were handled - it all needs to be revealed."

Mother told child had died at birth

Mr Hennessey campaigned for the royal commission and says it is important for victims like himself to come forward.

He was reunited with his mother when he was 57 and spent six years with her before she died.

"She'd been told I died at birth," he said.

"I never told her of my childhood days because I thought it was enough what she went through and it would break her heart.

"I'm doing this for my mother. If I can only save one child from what I went through, it's all worthwhile.

"We will be washed clean but forever tortured. There's no way out of that one."

 The public hearing will focus on the cruelty and the crimes committed by the Christian Brothers to young boys in the Castledare Junior Orphanage, Clontarf Orphanage, St Mary’s Agricultural School in Tardun and Bindoon Farm School/Bindoon Boystown.

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Records show that John Paul II could have intervened in abuse crisis - but didn't
Thomas Doyle 
25-4-2014

Sitting on a bookshelf in my office is a red leather-bound copy of the Code of Canon Law. This isn't just any copy of the church's rulebook. It was signed by Pope John Paul II for me at the request of my former boss, the late Cardinal Pio Laghi. It is dated 6-6-1983 in the late pope's own hand. I was definitely a fan in those days.

On Sunday after John Paul is promoted to sainthood, it will become a second-class relic. I will not venerate it, nor will I join the cheering crowds.

Veritas climbing out of her grave 

The past 30 years have led me to the opinion that his sainthood is a profound insult to the countless victims of sexual assault by Catholic clergy the world over. It is an insult to the decent, well-intentioned men and women who were persecuted by the Congregation for the Doctrine of the Faith during his reign, and it is an insult to the memory of Pope John XXIII, who has the misfortune being a canonization classmate.

This soon-to-be relic is a symbol of the shame and the failure of the book's content, the collection of church rules, and of the pope who autographed it.

People more eloquent than I have publicly stated the many reasons why this is so. I won't repeat their words here. However, I believe it is important to clarify some of the bizarre statements John Paul's two main cheerleaders have been making.

George Weigel claimed there was an information gap between the United States and the Holy See in 2002. This is nonsense. There was no gap then, and there was no gap in 1984, when the abuse issue boiled to the surface of public awareness. I was working at the Vatican embassy in 1984 and have firsthand experience of the transmission of information to the Vatican.

The papal nuncio, Laghi, then an archbishop, received a letter in the summer of 1984 from the vicar general of Lafayette, La., telling him that a couple whose little boy had been violated by Gilbert Gauthe was suing Gauthe, the bishop, the diocese, the archbishop of New Orleans, the papal nuncio and the pope. Soon after, the nuncio received the official complaint. From then on, there was a constant flow of information from Lafayette to the nuncio and from another diocese that popped onto center stage for the same reason -- Providence, R.I.

I was the conduit for most of the information and prepared daily memos for Archbishop Laghi. The usual procedure would have been to prepare a report for the Holy See, but that didn't happen at this stage. Laghi was on the phone to various officials in the Vatican, including the Secretariat of State, which is as good as going directly to the pope. In our conversations about the problem, and there were many, he frequently made statements such as, "I have talked to my superiors in Rome" or "My superiors in Rome" have said such and so.

In late February, I suggested to the archbishop that we ask the Holy Father to appoint a U.S. bishop to go to the Lafayette diocese as a special investigator to both see firsthand what was going on and to try to put some order into what was a rapidly growing chaotic mess. I suggested the late Bishop A.J. Quinn of Cleveland. Although my intentions were good, he was a mistake. Before long, it became obvious that he was part of the problem and not part of the solution.

Laghi agreed with my suggestion and asked me to prepare a report that would be attached to the request. The purpose of the report was to explain the situation in Louisiana. I quickly put together a report that was about 35 pages in length. It was detailed and factual, naming names and giving dates. It included the history of the cover-up as we knew it and a fairly graphic description of the harm done to the victims, a description based on some of the first medical reports I had received.

The nuncio told me that this was an urgent matter and for that reason, he wanted the report to go directly to the pope and not through one of the Vatican congregations. The late Cardinal John Krol of Philadelphia, a close friend of the pope, was leaving for Rome the following Monday. My orders were to get the report, signed by Laghi, to Krol by Sunday night. He had spoken with Laghi and had agreed to put it directly into the pope's hands. The report was sent by courier to Philadelphia. By Tuesday, it was before the pope, and by Thursday night, we had received a telex informing us that the pope had duly deputized Quinn as Laghi had requested.

From then on through the spring of 1985, I continued to prepare memos for Laghi, who continued to report to his superiors in the Vatican. There were some written reports sent over, but I don't recall how many. Among the items sent was a copy of the now-infamous report prepared by the late Fr. Michael Peterson, Attorney Ray Mouton, and me. This was the same report that the officials of the bishops' conference said they didn't need because they knew everything that was in it.

Fast forward to June, bypassing the famous Collegeville, Minn., meeting at which the bishops spent an entire day in executive session hearing about clergy sexual abuse but apparently learning nothing given the long-range outcome. In mid-June, as I recall, the late Cardinal Silvio Oddi visited the nunciature. At the time, he was prefect of the Congregation for the Clergy. Oddi reminded me of the cartoon character "The Little King." He had a cardinalatial ring with a stone as big as a golf ball.

He told Laghi that he wanted to hear about the sex abuse crisis. The nuncio told me to meet with the cardinal and brief him. I prepared a "briefing paper." This was June, and a lot had transpired since February. The nuncio had become aware of many more reports of sexual abuse by clergy from a number of different dioceses. I prepared my report and knew enough to be factual and detailed and, in some areas, graphically explicit. Oddi sat for about two hours while I in essence read the report, with occasional diversions to add more detail.

Normally very affable, the good cardinal was clearly in a dark mood when I finished. He asked a number of pointed questions about both the abusers and the abused and wanted to know why the accused priests were not subjected to a canonical trial. I will never forget his closing comments. "I will speak of this to the Holy Father. We will have a meeting of the prefects of all the dicasteries [Vatican departments], and we will issue a decree!" Subsequent to his departure, I recall Laghi assuring me that something would be done because Oddi would report to the pope. Whatever happened is anyone's guess. There was no decree, and even if there had been, it would have been useless.

This was in 1985, not 2002. It is hard to believe that this pope, who was supposed to be one of the smartest men alive at the time, could not have understood the gravity of significant numbers of priests raping and violating little children. The excuse that he did nothing because of his "purity of thought" is as ridiculous as the excuse that he wanted to preserve the priesthood for which he held such high esteem.

Joaquín Navarro-Valls, John Paul's press officer, said Friday that he didn't think the pope or anyone else understood the gravity of the crisis. Other than the fact that this assertion is also ridiculous, a number of people in the church did understand the gravity: the mothers and fathers of the children who were violated and even the general public, who were clamoring for action even back in the mid-'80s.

Navarro-Valls said after 2002, Pope John Paul immediately began taking action. Other than making nine recorded public statements, all of which were sufficiently nuanced to be innocuous, and calling a meeting of the U.S. cardinals to tell them what everyone already knew, he did nothing positive.

He did, however, do a few negative things. He was ultimately responsible for short-circuiting the investigation of Fr. Marcial Maciel Degollado. He refused to investigate the accusations against Cardinal Hans Hermann Groër of Vienna. He promoted the careers of some of the bishops and cardinals who intentionally inflicted horrendous damage on victims and expended vast amounts of donated money to stonewall the process of justice, e.g., Cardinals Bernard Law, Roger Mahony and George Pell, to name but a few. Perhaps the most egregious nonaction was completely ignoring the pleas of thousands of victims, many of whom wrote directly to him. Victims and victims' groups bombarded the Vatican with letters and requested audiences or at least recognition by the pope, especially at the World Youth Day celebrations. Not only were their requests ignored, but not one ever even received an acknowledgement of the receipt of their communication.

The sexual abuse scandal of our era has been the Catholic church's worst nightmare, and it has been going on for 30 years. The enormity of it all challenges the English language for words that can accurately describe it. The spectrum of large numbers of priests, bishops and even cardinals from around the world sexually violating children, one of the vilest crimes imaginable, challenges the capacity to grasp the enormity of such evil. Yet it not only happened, but it was enabled by those who have professed to follow the Gospel and lead others on the same path.

On Sunday, the institutional church will accord its highest honor to the one man who, more than any other alive, could have ended the nightmare and saved countless innocent and vulnerable victims. But he did not. It was not a question of he could not, but he would not.

The red book on my shelf may be a relic, but it is also a reminder of the very dark side of the institutional church, a side John Paul helped reveal.

[Thomas P. Doyle is a priest, canon lawyer, addictions therapist and longtime supporter of justice and compassion for clergy sex abuse victims.]

t IJspaleis , playpotten en zakkies plakken bij wensputje van Heiloo Joepie

Ik zie een optocht op het water. Een variant op de gay-pride, de jaarlijkse Amsterdamse nichtenparade in bootjes. Die kan elk jaar in iedere stad met een beetje water. Hoe we dat doen? Simpel. Lexie gaat met uitsluitend vrouw en kinderen (dus zonder al die tweedehands Van Vollenhoventjes) ergens op een ponton staan en een bonte stoet van idiote bootjes komt in hoog tempo langs. En dan geen juichende homo’s, maar een afspiegeling van de huidige maatschappij. Geen suf kantklossen of bloemschikken, maar Nederland 2014. Dus daar mogen wel een of twee nichtentobbes tussen, maar verder gewone boten. Alles met een vette knipoog.

We beginnen een stoomboot met een Sint zonder Pieten. Dan een zeeroversschip met hooligans die dusdanig in rook zijn gehuld dat je niet ziet van welke club ze zijn, waarachter ronkende waterscooters van diverse motorclubs die elkaar op het water afslachten. Dan een bootje met een kickboxer ernstig in discussie met Einstein, Schopenhauer en Voltaire. En daar achter hun middelvinger opstekende bankiers met uitpuilende geldzakken met in hun kielzog een bootje met blinde accountants die heel hard lachen naar het verbaasde volk op de kant. Dan een lek bootje met spartelende bejaarden en gehandicapten die langzaam verzuipen en uiteraard is er ook een bootje met minister Ivo Opstelten die naarstig naar oude bonnetjes zoekt plus een zeilboot met een beetje bolle staatssecretaris en een paar uitgeprocedeerde asielzoekers die zich net in de mast verhangen hebben. Dit bootje sleept een vaartuig voort waarin een Limburgse integriteitscommissie onder leiding van Jos van Rey zit te bidden. Dan het salonbootje van Jort Kelder met daarin een als nicht uitgedoste Rutte in dialoog met Poetin, die met een Kalasjnikov gericht schiet op andere boten. Dit alles wordt gevolgd door een roze sloepje van de verboden pedovereniging Martijn met bisschop Gijsen aan het roer en Joris Demmink in het kraaiennest. Hier achter een boot vol comazuipende jongeren en een praam vol Marokkanen met daarachter een Minder, Minder krijsende Mozart wiens bemanning tijdens de tocht een voor een het zinkende schip verlaat, dan een schip met een door Edwin de Roy van Zuydewijn in de boeien geslagen Beatrix en de bonte stoet wordt afgesloten met de als matrozen verklede Toppers. René, Gerard en Jeroen die uitbundig zeemansliedjes zingen, terwijl Gordon mokkend op de voorplecht zit. Hij heeft ruzie. Met wie? Met iedereen.


Volgens mij hebben we dan een vrolijke Koningsdag. Eentje waar we allemaal wat aan hebben.
Wat zal die familie opgelucht zijn!

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Gouden Handen Vereniging Martijn verboden en ontbonden

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Hoge Raad der Nederlanden 
Den Haag , 18-4-2014

De Hoge Raad heeft vandaag beslist dat de vereniging Martijn wordt verboden en ontbonden omdat haar activiteiten in strijd zijn met de openbare orde.

Het Openbaar Ministerie (OM) heeft bij de rechtbank een verzoek ingediend om de vereniging Martijn te verbieden en te ontbinden. De rechtbank heeft dat verzoek toegewezen.

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Het hof heeft de vordering echter afgewezen. De reden daarvoor was dat de samenleving volgens het hof in staat is zich teweer te stellen tegen ongewensteuitingen en gedragingen die weliswaar verwerpelijk, maar niet strafbaar zijn. De samenleving dient ook opvattingen voor lief te nemen die in brede kring worden verafschuwd, aldus het hof.

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De Hoge Raad heeft geoordeeld dat de vereniging de gevaren van seksueel contact met jonge kinderen bagatelliseert, dergelijke contacten zelfs verheerlijkt en haar opvattingen ook propageert. Seksueel contact van volwassenen met jonge kinderen is naar de in Nederland levende maatschappelijke opvattingen echter een daadwerkelijke en ernstigeaantasting van de lichamelijke en seksuele integriteit van het kind, dat daardoor grote en blijvende psychische schade kan oplopen. Juist kinderen behoeven bescherming tegenover volwassenen die zulke handelingen verrichten, omdat zij in het algemeen door hun jeugdige leeftijd en de daarmee samenhangende kwetsbaarheid in een afhankelijke positie verkeren.
Hoewel in het algemeen grote terughoudendheid moet worden betracht bij het verbieden en ontbinden van een vereniging, is het in dit zeer bijzondere geval in een democratische samenleving noodzakelijk dat de vereniging wordt verboden en ontbonden in het belang van de bescherming van de gezondheid en van de rechten en vrijheden van kinderen.